Are We *Still* Being Taught We Have to Have a Beauty Routine to Feel Feminine? Beauty Fans Debate
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If someone doesn’t choose to wear makeup regularly, attend regular nail appointments or prioritise maintaining a consistent hair colour, does it affect their femininity? That’s what a 25-year-old woman has asked in an online debate in a recent Reddit post entitled, “does anyone else not feel feminine since they don’t get their hair/nails/etc done?’ where she expresses concerns that there might be something ‘wrong’ with her.
“All of my friends dye their hair, always get their nails done, have tans, get Botox, get lip filler, get laser hair removal and get their lashes/brows done,” she explains. “I’ve never dyed my hair in my life and my nails are only done occasionally. I don’t wear makeup all the time either.”
Asking if anyone else feels the same she writes, “I’m starting to feel like I should be putting more effort into my appearance, but it’s hard for me to care about it.”
Users flooded the post with comments of support, with one woman saying, “if your goal or desire is to feel feminine, then you are your most feminine when you are comfortable and yourself,” and another writing, “I’m 47 — I feel incredibly feminine and do absolutely none of that. Femininity is a state of mind.”
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Some commenters believe that whilst going for regular beauty appointments and keeping themselves groomed makes them feel good, it doesn’t affect how they feel about their femininity. “It feels lovely to have a new cut or my nails done but I don’t think it makes me more feminine, just a female with occasionally shorter hair and longer nails,” said one person.
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Others said they prefer to concentrate on self-care. “It’s more boring but the upside is that it delivers long term results,” said one user.
Another big talking point was how much beauty maintenance costs. “Sometimes, I wonder if I should get my nails, hair, lashes, and brows done as well, but the thought of the expense and time that goes into it is too exhausting,” said one person.
“Sometimes I do think I should do more feminine things…but realistically I don’t have the time, energy, or funds,” wrote another.
“Imagine retiring a couple years earlier because you didn’t get gel manicures and invested,” added one more.
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The takeaway
If it’s not in you to wear makeup or go to regular beauty salon appointments, then just don’t do it. Happiness isn’t measured on how blonde your roots are or how much mascara you wear.
There are plenty of things other than makeup and hair products that have the power to make you feel feminine. For example, spritzing on a nice perfume, being a good mum, being confident about your natural beauty and being supportive of other females, to name a few.
And speaking of women supporting women, it appears that almost all of the comments were in favour of the woman not conforming to what beauty treatments she thought she should be doing. Because if it doesn’t make her happy dying her hair, getting Botox and wearing makeup every day, then why should she?
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